Birthday reflections: Important lessons I learned in my twenties

Birthday reflections: Important lessons I learned in my twenties

Today though is not my actual birthday (by the way, THANK YOU so much for your birthday wishes), I spent all day writing this post reflecting on my 32nd birthday and the Important Lessons I Learned in my Twenties!

Castle Fraser birthday party

Castle Fraser birthday party

Birthdays are very important to me, I see birthdays as a special occasion, a day to celebrate that I have healthily lived for another year, a day to embrace my personal growth, and a day to acknowledge and honour all the experiences I lived during the past year! Even though, the more I grow the more I feel the saying ‘life goes by so fast‘, since I hit the big 3-0, I try to be more mindful and grateful. I mean, I am healthy, I am lucky enough to have good education, I have a home, a family and a group of friends-what’s more to ask?

Since, I foolishly didn’t blog about my 30th and 31st birthday – the first one were spent by the beach with my family in Greece and the second one were celebrated with a surprise salsa lake party organised by my sister, you can have a look HERE if you like! – I promised myself to post something about my birthday this year, after all Natbee’s is still an online diary where I document snippets of my life…

Castle Fraser birthday party

Castle Fraser birthday party

Castle Fraser birthday party

This year, I spent the morning with my friend Jules drinking hot chocolate and eating macaroons at a local French cafe. Then, as soon as I returned back home, I baked an apple crumble cake – I followed a cupcake recipe, but somehow managed to make it to a birthday cake! I packed a picnic basket, wore my Barbour jacket and brogues and headed to the countryside. We drove to Castle Fraser, a fabulous castle dating back to the 1450’s – I love Aberdeenshire for the abundance of castles, so I thought it would only be appropriate to take advantage of my love of historic places and spend this special day having a picnic in the castle grounds!

Castle Fraser birthday party

Castle Fraser birthday party

Castle Fraser birthday party

Castle Fraser birthday party Castle Fraser birthday party Cruzy was more exciting than these pictures reveal. Whilst I was apple picking, he was charging up and down the garden, back and forth and up and down the hill until he exhausted himself and needed a little break under the tree. And after he got his batteries fully charged, he started all over again!

We sat on a tree trunk that served as a coffee table, got our enamel mugs, thermo, cutlery and crockery out, and cut the cake, all that with the view of Castle Fraser on the backdrop. As the sun was about to set, it was getting a bit chilly and the Earl Grey tea in our mugs felt like a blessing, warming our hands and hearts while we enjoyed spoonfuls of the cake and observed Cruzy running down the hill.

IMPORTANT LESSONS I LEARNED IN MY TWENTIES

IMPORTANT LESSONS I LEARNED IN MY TWENTIES IMPORTANT LESSONS I LEARNED IN MY TWENTIES

IMPORTANT LESSONS I LEARNED IN MY TWENTIES

It was a beautiful birthday celebration and I am so glad we spend it just how I wanted, with family and friends in the beautiful Scottish countryside 🙂

IMPORTANT LESSONS I LEARNED IN MY TWENTIES

I don’t think that life changes much from your 30th to your 32nd birthday, or that I am a different person than the person I used to be in my 20’s, but here are 3 of the most Important lessons I learned in my twenties::

ONE// YOU ARE THE SUM OF THE PEOPLE YOU SURROUND YOURSELF WITH
I learned this the hard way as I am a very sociable person and easy to make friends. So, at times, I found myself being surrounded with loads of different circles, all having different interests and hobbies which made it so difficult for me to keep up and please them. So one thing I learned after loads of failure and trial is to surround yourself only with people who have similar drives and ambitions on life. If you find that the people you’re spending the most time with, don’t have many common ideas or thoughts like you do then perhaps it would be best to make some new friends that do. My friends are my family while living in Scotland, they are a constant source of inspiration, encouragement and support. If your friends aren’t all these things then you aren’t going to reach your full potential. So choose your friends and keep them close to your heart!

TWO// NEVER STOP EDUCATING YOURSELF 
Education has always played a major role in my life. As a kid, I was eager to learn things and as a teenager I already knew what I wanted to study at University and what career pathway I wanted to follow. Being educated – in any form that education might come, online courses, volunteering, finding a mentor – is a HUGE life bonus, and it can take you way further than you think. Education will give you the confidence to stand up for yourself, form critical arguments, take part in political conversations, apply for this job that you have always dreamed, network, and be who you are! Doing things will also educate you and give you a deep understanding of situations and how to respond accordingly, for instance becoming a volunteer tour guide, or becoming a children’s tutor assistant at the local school. In one way or another, opening your horizons and making your brain work in a different way than it usually does, can only enrich your life, enlarge your imagination and make you do great things in life. This year, my challenge is to learn Italian!

THREE// WHEN A SITUATION CANNOT CHANGE THEN CHANGE YOUR ATTITUDE
In life, you cannot control what other people say, what they think of you and how they see you. Subsequently, you might find yourself on multiple occasions being the central part of a story you never wanted to take part in. There are a lot of difficult situations that life brings to us, to help us become stronger and better, but sometimes this might get too much. If you cannot change the situation, and it gets overwhelming, then try to change your attitude and see the positive things out of this whole thing. Like I said, you cannot control people’s thoughts and reactions, but you CAN control your thoughts, perspective and attitude towards things, and this can make a great difference to difficult circumstances in life. Important lessons I learned in my twenties

And a bonus one: FOUR// MAKE A LIST OF ALL YOUR MISTAKES AND LEARN FROM THEM
This might sound silly, but I have a list of all the mistakes I have done in life and take lessons from it, so that I will never do them again. Some of them are silly mistakes like forgetting my wallet in the bus, but others are more serious like never trust people easily and never to let people walk all over you. Important lessons I learned in my twenties

Life is short and very precious, embrace it and live it as best as you can! Important lessons I learned in my twenties

Did you enjoy the Important lessons I learned in my twenties? What are the important lessons you have learned in life?

Anastasia

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Anastasia is passionate about exploring new places, meeting people, lingering over dinners, hearing stories, petting dogs and studying Science! She holds a Doctorate in Biophysics and when not working in the laboratory she loves baking chocolate cakes and going on long dog walks with her puppy, Cruz.

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10 Comments

  1. October 1, 2018 / 1:00 am

    happy belated birthday! sounds like a great birthday!

    xx

    • Anastasia
      Author
      October 17, 2018 / 7:46 pm

      Thank you Natalie! It was delicious x

  2. Nina Faulkner
    October 2, 2018 / 7:04 pm

    The ‘Never stop educating yourself’ is a brilliant piece of advice! I am learning how to knit this year and hoping to make a scarf until Christmas! x

    • Anastasia
      Author
      October 5, 2018 / 1:01 pm

      Thank you Nina, I am glad you liked it! I am learning Italian and I am still to learn a different knitting stitch! x

  3. October 3, 2018 / 6:41 pm

    Such a perfect place to enjoy a mini picnic! I’m loving your outfit, and finding myself very jealous of your day!! It looks amazing.
    GREAT lessons too! I totally agree with all 4. Especially the one about attitude. That is something I’ve learned myself throughout my twenties. Your twenties is such a huge decade! So much happens and there is so much to learn from. I’m hoping my thirties are a little less eventful, haha.

    • Anastasia
      Author
      October 5, 2018 / 12:48 pm

      Thank you Kristen! Totally true, the twenties is a decade of travelling, educating yourself and going through the job/house hunt process, whereas the thirties are much more relaxed! x

  4. October 14, 2018 / 2:46 am

    What a wholesome way to spend your birthday! // I graduated just recently, and now that I’m not in school anymore, I’m realising just how true that there is so much to learn in life, even just through experience, though explicitly taking classes or learning a skill are ways to continue learning as well, and it’s never too late!

    • Anastasia
      Author
      October 17, 2018 / 7:47 pm

      There is so much more to life than just studying 🙂 Taking up a hobby and travelling can teach you so much too x

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